Essential ingredients for a Healthy Relationship

-Sukanya Singh

‘Love’ is the purest form of sensation. It is very fragile and should be handled with utmost care and responsibility, in order to fulfill the true meaning of it. It is said and believed that the divine being has made someone or the other for each one of us. It has already been decided in the heaven. No one knows how, when and where we would meet each other but it happens or it will happen! It feels heavenly when we are into someone, or get attached to our partners in our life. It is the best feeling in the world that most of you have experienced already! It is the colourful form of joy and happiness and something that puts somebody in a different arena of their lives, away from the general life.

The same relationship or the feelings deteriorate when one or the other could not cope with one another. It becomes very hard to take such situations and grief. All that you achieve is sadness, tears, heart ache and insecurities all around. You feel like the one totally broken inside and helpless. You pass many a number of days crying secretly with the pillow tightly hugged and feeling like a lost one and no more. This is totally normal. 

We all are born and brought up in different families, culture, environment. We have grown amidst different people, society and tradition. So it is always first to be kept in mind that there will be obviously some kind of differences between you two. These are not exactly the proper reasons for the cause of a bad relationship. There are certain ‘manners’ which are very hard to follow though! But are very effective for a pair of love birds, if they want to sustain. These are hard to obey and difficult to instantly take into someone’s account because it is the human nature that one always wants to be superior to the rest. No one likes to be tamed. A healthy and a sweet relationship exists only when certain things are given due importance.

• Always try to understand your partner: Try to know about the likes and dislikes. The comfort zones and the opposite. Put some effort to better understand the moods and act or react accordingly.

• Never cheat: Cheating is not a mistake. It is a choice. Always be loyal to your partner. Be trustworthy and never ever break the trust, because it is like a plain mirror. It cannot be fixed like the earlier one, once it is broken. Traces of confusions leave certain marks into your relationship always after. It becomes hard for someone again to trust somebody whom they loved so much.

• Keep aside your ego: This particular point in a relationship proves to be the ‘devil’ of all. Mostly it is seen that arguments, quarrels or fights do pop up. Keeping oneself silent thinking the other would come first and say sorry and then reviving the bond, is seriously useless. You should always keep yourself free to talk to your partner, whatever might be the situation; just talk and try to solve the issue. When both of you stop talking after the argument, there comes in the ‘communication gap’. This is more dangerous than anything else. Talking and clearing out the problem is very important to understand each one better, maintain a healthy relationship and erase the misunderstandings. Never ever try to prove ‘who is right and who is wrong’. This is where the ego plays a very strong role to spread its negative vibes. Try to instead take out ‘what is right and what is wrong’. Try to rather fix the issue with a cool mind, soft and gentle word which marks your good personality. Value the relationship and leave aside the ego; the destroyer.

If your partner is not at all ready to talk to you just provide some space to cool down and wait. Make sure that it does not become a huge gap. Try to crack some jokes or tease little to make your partner happy. Talk about the happy moments you shared, the places two of you had been to, food you both had, etc. Once your partner is back to normal state, just push yourself little bit to discuss the situation and clear it out so that it does not mushroom again in future.

• Provide space to your partner: No one in a relationship is meant to be under someone’s dictatorship. There is a huge difference between ‘correcting’ someone and ‘dictating’ someone. ‘Dominating’ is not the solution to fix a relationship. If you see your partner spending some family time at home, you should not complain your partner for not being able to spend time with you. A family surely comes first! If your partner is busy in some work, you should not complain because one might have some work, really important work! It is not even good to make calls frequently like every 5-10 minutes or so and that too with complains; it literally becomes very annoying and irritating.

• Doubting is not a good option: We see certain people use to doubt their partners with someone else. Some use to doubt their partners when they are around their friends. When you start doubting, the relationship loses its originality. A partner feels that their loved one is losing confidence and this in turn degrades the smoothness in a relationship. 

• Motivate one another: This is a very important aspect to build a relationship stronger. Motivating one another would fill up both with positivity and happiness around. This helps in boosting up both equally. It is very important to help each other grow better and improve day by day and in turn it helps one another to maintain and sustain a positive relationship in the long run. Try to deliver some motivating words to your partner today and see the reaction!!!

Commitment is a very important aspect from both the sides. Always try to respect the differences. No one is perfect in this world, but together all of us can build a perfect relationship.